3: You Are a Woman Overcoming Your Fears
On the Way to Your Dreams and
Embracing New Possibilities All Along the Way...
As Mary Manin Morrisey
states in Building Your Field of Dreams: "This is the moment of transformation
for all of us. None of us relishes facing our fear, but our dream exists
beyond the borders of that fear." Yet what often stops us from even
beginning to access our true gifts and enter the realm of our dreams is
At times, it is so tremendously difficult to get beyond that underlying
fear, and to force ourselves to move forward. But we just cannot let ourselves
be confined by those deep-rooted fears to a life of limitation, of unlived
everything worth really doing or having
requires that we move forward in new directions,
take courageous risks, release and let go of our fears...
that we open our hearts fully...
enter the space of openness to new possibilities...
and allow our courage to come forth and override our fear...
Sometimes our fears
are so strong because we intuitively sense that we are about to be asked
to step through a powerful doorway of transformation, into a new realm
that we are afraid we are not prepared to enter. It may be one we would
not freely choose to enter, one we would never consciously invite ourselves
into. Yet we find ourselves forcibly swept inside anyway, and are simply
not allowed to exit until we have learned the deep lessons the place within
is offering us. continued...
takes us to the very core of our selves. I know that walking through the
doorway of my own fears and out the other side has been one of the most
powerfully transformative experiences of my life. For seven long and difficult
years, I was married to a man whom I loved deeply, but whose unhealed
childhood wounds spilled over into all aspects of our relationship, making
even the most basic communication often impossible. Still, I was intensely
committed to doing everything in my power to make the marriage work, thinking
that it would be best for my daughter to keep our family together.
But a part
of me, underneath it all, stayed in the marriage not only because of the
love that was present and quite real, but also from a deep sense of fear.
I was terrified of the very idea of having to survive on my own as the
sole support of my daughter and myself, should he ever leave us. Yet one
unforgettable May morning - ironically, it was MotherÕs Day, the year
that my daughter was just five - he made his choice.
able to deal with his own emotional demons and remain a husband and father,
he packed his possessions and drove off at sunrise in a U-Haul truck,
leaving me to pick up the pieces of my life alone. Overnight I was transformed
into a single mother of a young child, unaware of my real resources, and
suddenly forced to confront the deepest fear of my life. I was overwhelmed
at first, almost paralyzed, afraid I would never be able to cope with
this new life circumstance.
over the first year or two, I moved, one slow step at a time, through
all the stages of grieving, and layers of fear. I began to peel them away,
one by one by one, replacing them with layers of new awareness and newfound
strength and confidence. Awareness that yes, I could go on alone, and
learn to take care of myself. I could handle being a single parent to
my child. I could make a home for us, one that was modest, perhaps, but
infinitely and finally peaceful - and increasingly full of joyful moments,
gratitude, and love.
It has been
a long, hard journey, and an empowering and exhilarating one as well.
Along the way, I have come to let go of many of my preconceived ideas
of how life should be lived, or can be lived. In reality, since change
is constant, we simply must be able to navigate the journey wherever it
takes us - with all the grace and wisdom that we can possibly call forth
at every stage.
a result of this unexpected turn in my own life journey, I now have an
inner knowing that I can walk through the fire of my deepest fears - and
I can survive, and even thrive once again. This has brought me to a place
of openness to all possibilities - which feels like a fine place to be.
For the journey of life really is a mysterious and magnificent adventure,
and a new chapter of your life, one brimming with infinite possibilities,
is before you at every moment, just waiting to unfold.
Williamson says in A WomanÕs Worth: "When a woman rises up in glory,
her energy is magnetic, and her sense of possibility contagious!"
Yet in order to get to the place where we can shine forth, radiant with
possibility, we often do have to traverse first through the darkest of
times. I imagine that you too have at times had to face the darkness and
find your way back towards the light - and have been transformed in powerful
ways in the process. For all things of beauty truly are birthed from the
darkness into the light... Live
now for a few moments with these questions. As you look deeply into the
Mirror of Transformation, take some time to acknowledge yourself for every
deep fear you have had to confront and overcome, and every new possibility
that you have opened to or are opening to right now!
possibilities are you now creating or opening up to?
the fears you have had to confront and overcome along the way?
it felt to have moved through some of those fears?
ways are you now transforming yourself, and rising up and becoming more
of who you are meant to be? What fears are you working through right now
in the process?
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